学校不教的21个社会学小技巧!

学校不教的21个社会小技巧!

大部分人在二三十岁上就死去了,因为过了这个年龄,他们只是自己的影子,此后的余生则是在模仿自己中度过,日复一日,更机械,更装腔作势地重复他们在有生之年的所作所为,所思所想,所爱所恨。 ——《约翰 • 克利斯朵夫》

1- If someone buys you a drink, buy one back - people notice .

来而不往非礼也,如果对方这次请你喝饮料,下次记得回请。很多小细节,别人嘴上不说,但心里会有相应的评判。

2- Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rudely you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

给予清洁工以CEO一样同等的尊重。颐指气使很容易,但对不同社会分工的人给予平等的人格的尊重,这才是最难能可贵的。

3- As a guy, to acknowledge someone you don’t know you nod down, to acknowledge someone you do know nod up. No idea why this happens but it’s true.

4- If on a date or out with friends. Never leave your phone on the table face up, it subconsciously hints that your phone is more important than their company. Put it on airplane mode and in your bag/pocket.

与恋人约会或与朋友聚餐时,不要把手机朝上放在桌面上。这会给他们一种不好的暗示,你的手机比他们的陪伴更重要。你不会真正可怜到陪朋友好好吃一顿饭的时间都没有,打开飞行模式,让手机静静的躺在口袋里,就一顿饭的时间。

5-When you first walk into a bar/club/party, mirror the mood of others. If people are being loud you can be loud, if not don’t.

当进入一个清吧,俱乐部,或者参加一个宴会时,先观察一下当下的氛围。如果其他的人都很嗨,你也可以大声嗨起来。如果当下很安静,那你最好不要去打破。

6- If you have a choice of two queues, choose the one without any children or elderly people.

排队等候时,如果有选择,尽量选择老人、儿童比较少的那一队。

7- If you go to urinal, don’t stand next to someone if others spare.

关于男性。小便时,尽量不要站在别人旁边。

8-When someone uses your full name, you’re probably in trouble.

当有人叫你全名时,你可能是要惹上麻烦了。(文化差异,国内也许不一定)

9-If someone tells you some news they are pleased about, act as excited as them even if you’re jealous/annoyed. You can be petty in your own time.

如果有人特地告诉你他们做的很满意的事,表现的像他们一样兴奋,即使你很嫉妒或不快,但任何不屑,你完全可以在自己一个人的时候表达。

10-If a colleague tells you they have a doctors appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say hope you’re ok. If they want to talk about it they will and you don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness.

如果同事跟你说他下午要去医院,不要追问原因,表达关心即可。如果他们愿意细说,自然会告诉你。过度追问个人隐私,有时候也是一种尴尬。

11- If you’re being taken out to dinner, note what the person paying is ordering and order something the same/less in value. If they get the salad don’t order the steak.

如果有人请你吃饭,留意一下请客的人点的东西。尽量点同等价位或稍低价位的东西。比如对方点一份沙拉,那你最好不要去点一份牛排。

12-When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

当朋友用手机给你看一张照片的时候,看看就好,不要左滑,右滑。你永远不知道下一张会不会触及别人的隐私。

13-If he/she says ‘sounds good, I’ll let you know when I’m free’ when you ask to meet up and they don’t get back to you, don’t push them. They probably don’t want to meet up.

约人时,如果对方说“听起来不错,有空再给你回复”,然后再也没给你回复,不要去催别人,可能人家就是不想见面。

14-Always give up your seat for the elderly/try to help where possible. But don’t be patronising and if you’re not sure if they’re old enough, play it safe and don’t offer. You might insult them.

给老人和孕妇让座是一个优良的品德,饭前提是你得判断准确。当你不确定时,最好还是安静的坐着,你的善举有可能对他人是一种侮辱。我只是胖,不是怀孕!!!

15-If you’re getting a long flight or train, shower before. The person next to you will appreciate it.

坐长途火车或飞行时,最后提前洗个澡,你的邻座会感激你的!

16- Starting an email using just someone's first name with no hi, etc, immediately makes it look aggressive.

发邮件时,开头直呼其名或者没有任何招呼语,会让人觉得你很有攻击性!

17-Don’t invite someone to a meeting if they only need to be there for the last 5 minutes, invite them to the last 5 minutes or do it via email.

一个会议,如果某人只需要呆上5分钟,那么尽量通过电子邮件解决,或者在会议最后5分钟请他们过来。

18- If someone has headphones on, leave them alone. By the same token, realise how it looks if you put your headphones on when sitting next to someone.

如果对方正在打电话,给他们一点单独空间。同理,想象一下,当你坐在别人旁边打电话时,对方是什么感受。

19-Never ask a shy person what’s wrong or ask them ‘why aren’t you talking more?’ It only makes them feel more awkward.

当一个害羞的人沉默时,不要追问他们怎么了,为什么不想讲话等等,这只会让对方更尴尬。

20-Don’t tell someone they look like someone unless the person you are comparing them to is unquestionably good looking.

不要随便跟人说你长得好像谁谁谁,除非你跟他们对比的那个人是公认的光鲜亮丽。

21- Don’t just ignore homeless people, say ‘no, sorry have a good day’. It can be incredibly demoralising to be ignored all day every day and just to have someone say sorry or hi can be a welcome pick me up. You don’t need to sit down and have a long chat with them but just be polite as you would with anyone else.

以上就是今天的分享,希望对你有所帮助!

原文作者:Louise Angel Scott 译文链接

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