1.提升自己
2.扩充人脉
3.现在就开始选择谁来做你的爱人
第三点，的确越早想明白越好。
第一点，是应该时刻都在做的事情，如果还没做，现在做也并不晚。
当你变的足够优秀，你就会吸引更加优秀的人。
观点：
Thirty is not the new 20
原因：
你以为：
“You have 10 extra years to start your life”
而实际：
It's realizing you can't have that career you now want. It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.
方法：
three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.
1.
to get some identity capital.
（do something that adds value to who you are）
2.
That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.
3.
the time to start picking your family is now
结果：
She's married to a man she mindfully chose. She loves her new career
结语：
so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.
Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You're deciding your life right now.
学习句子
Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later
30 is not the new 20
20s a developmental sweet spot
benign neglect [善意忽视]
50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now. We're talking about 15 percent of the population
your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.
80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35
20s are that critical period of adult development
Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.
Nothing happens. You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.
When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure
ump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time
she hangs her head in her lap
she sobbed for most of the hour.
She was nearly hysterical
the urban tribe is overrated
twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work
Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work
procrastination ［拖延］
